Dealing with conflict


Yesterday we discussed the fact that Valuing Relationships involves handling conflict in accord with Christ’s teaching in Matthew 18:15-17.  PREP 3 focuses on how you handle those difficult conversations in Step 1 – the “in private” conversation.   These conversations can be nerve wracking.  But, for the good of the Church Family, they must be done.  We simply cannot sweep relational discord under the rug.  Seekers can sense disunity in a Church from a mile away.

The truth is, I’m a conflict avoider by nature.  I don’t enjoy difficult conversations.  In fact, I think anyone who does enjoy them may not be operating with a full deck.  But I’ve learned the hard way that delaying or failing to have tough conversations that need to be had never turns out well.  Relational discord rarely heals with time and silence.  It festers and spreads.  So, when you know there’s a problem, put on your big boy pants and deal with it.

At the same time, there are ways to prevent, or at least minimize, conflict.  By Valuing Relationships we develop relational depth that enables us to work through conflict.  Relation depth drives us to listen, to assume the best, to speak the truth as we perceive it (while remaining open to another point of view), and to speak that truth in love.  Ephesians 4:15.

Conflict can also be avoided or minimized by clearly communicating up front the purpose, vision and values of the Church or ministry.  Clear communication allows people to self-select whether they align with who we are.



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